William H. Willimon - "Ordinary People" (October 21, 1990)
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| - | [Reverend Willimon] Good morning, and welcome to | 5:19 |
| this Parents Sunday here in Duke Chapel. | 5:21 | |
| Our presence here today signifies | 5:25 | |
| one of the unusual aspects of life | 5:27 | |
| at Duke University from its beginning | 5:30 | |
| and that is the unique blending of | 5:33 | |
| religion and erudition | 5:36 | |
| and your presence here symbolizes | 5:38 | |
| that that tradition continues | 5:41 | |
| and we're particularly glad to have | 5:43 | |
| the parents of our students with use today. | 5:46 | |
| This evening at 5pm there will be an free organ concert | 5:50 | |
| Christina Regech will be playing | 5:56 | |
| the Flentrop organ in concert. | 5:59 | |
| I've also been asked to announce | 6:02 | |
| that Amnesty International | 6:04 | |
| one of the ministries of the chapel | 6:06 | |
| has a signup table out front at the end | 6:08 | |
| of the service for prisoners of conscience in Cuba | 6:11 | |
| they're focusing on this year | 6:15 | |
| would like your participation. | 6:17 | |
| And now let us continue our worship. | 6:20 | |
| Stand. | 6:25 | |
| The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ be with you. | 6:32 | |
| Congregation | And also with you. | 6:34 |
| - | The risen Christ is with us. | 6:36 |
| - | Praise the Lord. | 6:38 |
| (organ music) | 6:40 | |
| ("Praise the Lord, O My Soul") | 7:18 | |
| - | [Reverend Ferree-Clark] God of Abraham and Ruth | 12:25 |
| you call us to embark on a journey of faith. | 12:28 | |
| We stand before you ready to hear your call | 12:32 | |
| and to follow where you lead | 12:35 | |
| for you have claimed us by your mercy | 12:38 | |
| and set before us eternal promises in Jesus Christ | 12:41 | |
| with whom we live to give you all glory | 12:45 | |
| in the power of the Holy Spirit. | 12:48 | |
| Amen. | 12:51 | |
| Join with me in the prayer for illumination. | 13:10 | |
| Open our hearts and minds, oh God | 13:13 | |
| by the power of your holy spirit | 13:16 | |
| so that as the word is read and proclaimed | 13:19 | |
| we might hear with joy what you say to us this day. | 13:23 | |
| Amen. | 13:27 | |
| A reading from the Book of Ruth. | 13:33 | |
| "In the days when the judges ruled | 13:38 | |
| "there was a famine in the land | 13:40 | |
| "and a certain man of Bethlehem and Judah | 13:43 | |
| "went to live in the country of Moab. | 13:45 | |
| "He, and his wife, and two sons. | 13:48 | |
| "The name of the man was Elimelech | 13:52 | |
| "and the name of his wife, Naomi. | 13:53 | |
| "And the names of his two sons were Mahlon and Chilion. | 13:56 | |
| "They were Ephrathites from Bethlehem and Judah. | 14:00 | |
| "They went into the country of Moab | 14:04 | |
| "and remained there but Elimelech | 14:06 | |
| "the husband of Naomi, died | 14:09 | |
| "and she was left with her two sons. | 14:11 | |
| "These took Moabite wives | 14:14 | |
| "the name of the one was Orpah | 14:16 | |
| "and the name of the other, Ruth. | 14:18 | |
| "When they had lived there about ten years | 14:21 | |
| "both Mahlon and Chilion also died | 14:23 | |
| "so that the woman was left without her two sons | 14:27 | |
| "and her husband. | 14:30 | |
| "Then she started to return with her daughters-in-law | 14:32 | |
| "from the country of Moab | 14:34 | |
| "for she had heard in the country of Moab | 14:36 | |
| "that the Lord had considered his people | 14:39 | |
| "and given them food. | 14:41 | |
| "So she set out from the place | 14:44 | |
| "where she had been living | 14:46 | |
| "she and her two daughters-in-law | 14:47 | |
| "and they went on their way to go back | 14:49 | |
| "to the land of Judah. | 14:51 | |
| "But Naomi said to her two daughters-in-law | 14:54 | |
| "Go back, each of you, to your mother's house. | 14:56 | |
| "May the Lord deal kindly with you | 15:00 | |
| "as you have dealt with the dead and with me. | 15:02 | |
| "The Lord grant that you may find security | 15:06 | |
| "each of you in the house of your husband. | 15:08 | |
| "Then she kissed them and they wept aloud. | 15:11 | |
| "They said to her, no | 15:15 | |
| "we will return with you to your people. | 15:16 | |
| "But Naomi said, turn back, my daughters. | 15:20 | |
| "Why will you go with me? | 15:22 | |
| "Do I still have sons in my womb | 15:25 | |
| "that they may become your husbands? | 15:27 | |
| "Turn back, my daughters, go your way | 15:30 | |
| "for I am too old to have a husband. | 15:32 | |
| "Even if I thought there was hope for me | 15:36 | |
| "even if I should have a husband tonight | 15:38 | |
| "and bear sons, would you then wait | 15:40 | |
| "until they were grown? | 15:43 | |
| "Would you then refrain from marrying? | 15:45 | |
| "No my daughters, it has been far more bitter | 15:48 | |
| "for me than for you because the hand of the Lord | 15:51 | |
| "has turned against me. | 15:54 | |
| "Then they wept aloud again. | 15:56 | |
| "Orpah kissed her mother-in-law | 15:59 | |
| "but Ruth clung to her. | 16:00 | |
| "So she said, see, your sister-in-law has gone back | 16:03 | |
| "to her people and to her Gods. | 16:05 | |
| "Return after your sister-in-law. | 16:07 | |
| "But Ruth said, do not press me to leave you | 16:11 | |
| "or to turn back from following you. | 16:14 | |
| "Where you go, I will go. | 16:16 | |
| "Where you lodge, I will lodge. | 16:19 | |
| "Your people shall be my people | 16:22 | |
| "and your God, my God. | 16:24 | |
| "Where you die, I will die. | 16:27 | |
| "There will I be buried. | 16:29 | |
| "May the Lord do thus and so to me | 16:32 | |
| "and more as well if even death parts me from you. | 16:34 | |
| "When Naomi saw that she was determined to go with her | 16:40 | |
| "she said no more to her. | 16:43 | |
| "So the two of them went on until they came to Bethlehem. | 16:46 | |
| "When they came to Bethlehem, | 16:49 | |
| "the whole town was stirred because of them | 16:51 | |
| "and then women said, is this Naomi? | 16:53 | |
| "She said to them, call me no longer Naomi. | 16:58 | |
| "Call me Mara, for the almighty has dealt bitterly with me. | 17:01 | |
| "I went away full but the Lord has brought me back empty. | 17:06 | |
| "Why call me Naomi when the Lord has dealt | 17:11 | |
| "harshly with me, and the amighty has brought | 17:13 | |
| "calamity upon me? | 17:16 | |
| "So Naomi returned together with Ruth the Moabite | 17:19 | |
| "her daughter-in-law who came back with her | 17:22 | |
| "from the country of Moab. | 17:24 | |
| "They came to Bethlehem at the beginning | 17:27 | |
| "of the barley harvest. | 17:29 | |
| "This is the word of the Lord." | 17:33 | |
| Congregation | Praise be to God. | 17:35 |
| - | Please stand as we join together | 17:38 |
| in singing responsibly Psalm 146 | 17:39 | |
| found on page 858 in your hymnal. | 17:43 | |
| (organ music) | 17:49 | |
| ♪ Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, oh my soul. ♪ | 17:55 | |
| (congregants singing) | 18:02 | |
| ♪ Put not your trust in princes ♪ | 18:13 | |
| ♪ In mortals in hope there is no help. ♪ | 18:16 | |
| (congregants singing) | 18:22 | |
| ♪ Happy are those whose help is in the God of Jacob ♪ | 18:32 | |
| (congregants singing) | 18:38 | |
| ♪ Who made Heaven and Earth ♪ | 18:42 | |
| ♪ The sea and all that is in them ♪ | 18:46 | |
| (congregants singing) | 18:50 | |
| ♪ The Lord sets the prisoners free ♪ | 19:02 | |
| (congregants singing) | 19:05 | |
| ♪ The Lord lifts up those who are bogged down ♪ | 19:10 | |
| (congregants singing) | 19:15 | |
| ♪ The Lord watches over the sojourners ♪ | 19:19 | |
| (congregants singing) | 19:23 | |
| ♪ The Lord will reign forever ♪ | 19:33 | |
| ♪ Your God, oh Zion ♪ | 19:36 | |
| ♪ From generation to generation ♪ | 19:39 | |
| ♪ Praise the Lord ♪ | 19:44 | |
| ♪ Oh Glory be to you oh God ♪ | 19:48 | |
| ♪ And to Jesus Christ, our savior ♪ | 19:52 | |
| (congregants singing) | 19:55 | |
| ♪ As it was since time began ♪ | 20:01 | |
| (congregants singing) | 20:05 | |
| - | [William J. Griffith] The second reading | 20:26 |
| is from the gospel according to Saint Matthew. | 20:27 | |
| "Then the Pharisees went and plotted | 20:32 | |
| "to entrap him in what he said. | 20:35 | |
| "So they sent their disciples to him | 20:39 | |
| "along with the Herodians | 20:41 | |
| "saying, teacher, we know that you are sincere | 20:43 | |
| "and teach the way of God in accordance with truth | 20:49 | |
| "and show deference to no one | 20:52 | |
| "for you do not regard people with partiality. | 20:55 | |
| "Tell us then what you think. | 21:00 | |
| "Is it lawful to pay taxes to the emperor or not? | 21:04 | |
| "But Jesus, aware of their malice, said | 21:10 | |
| "Why are you putting me to the test, you hypocrites? | 21:15 | |
| "Show me the coin used for the tax. | 21:19 | |
| "And they brought him a denarius. | 21:23 | |
| "Then he said to them, whose head is this | 21:26 | |
| "and whose title? | 21:31 | |
| "They answered, the emperor. | 21:33 | |
| "Then he said to them, give therefore | 21:37 | |
| "to the emperor the things that are the emperor's | 21:40 | |
| "and give to God the things that are God's. | 21:44 | |
| "When they heard this, they were amazed | 21:50 | |
| "and they left him and went away. | 21:53 | |
| "This is the word of the Lord." | 21:57 | |
| Congregation | Praise be to God. | 21:59 |
| (orchestra music) | 22:16 | |
| ("Praise the Lord, O My Soul") | 22:32 | |
| - | It's Parents' Weekend, | 26:53 |
| and by happy act of divine serendipity | 26:55 | |
| the lectionary has assigned as the first reading | 27:00 | |
| the book of Ruth. | 27:04 | |
| The book of Ruth is a family story, | 27:07 | |
| an ancient novella perhaps three thousand years old. | 27:10 | |
| It's an old story, and I believe it | 27:15 | |
| to be a true story because it is a story | 27:18 | |
| about a family that's in trouble. | 27:23 | |
| It's a story about a middle class family | 27:27 | |
| that hits on hard times and has to move | 27:30 | |
| to a strange land, and a father who dies, | 27:34 | |
| leaving a widow and two sons ill prepared for, | 27:38 | |
| and two sons who marry women | 27:44 | |
| of another religion and race, | 27:46 | |
| and a mother-in-law who does not understand | 27:49 | |
| her daughters-in-law and yet finds herself | 27:53 | |
| yoked to them in misery. | 27:56 | |
| It's a story about a family that's beset with problems | 28:00 | |
| and bills to pay and children who won't do right | 28:05 | |
| and mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law and tensions. | 28:10 | |
| In other words, it's a story about | 28:15 | |
| a family like yours, like mine. | 28:17 | |
| Ordinary people. | 28:21 | |
| Or am I doing a disservice to your family? | 28:25 | |
| It's Parents' Weekend, | 28:29 | |
| and there many of you with mom and dad. | 28:31 | |
| Maybe your family doesn't have such problems. | 28:33 | |
| And if so, then that makes your family extraordinary. | 28:38 | |
| But our story, the story of Ruth | 28:44 | |
| is about an ordinary family. | 28:47 | |
| A family where it's tough to be in the family | 28:50 | |
| and there are tensions and difficulties | 28:53 | |
| of over-loving one another. | 28:57 | |
| It's an ordinary family. | 29:00 | |
| A Duke student told me last week | 29:04 | |
| that she had quite a dilemma over Parents' Weekend | 29:06 | |
| cause she's got to split her Parents' Weekend | 29:08 | |
| between two sets of parents. | 29:10 | |
| She's got her father and his new wife | 29:13 | |
| over at one motel across town. | 29:16 | |
| She's got her mother and her fiance, | 29:18 | |
| and it's tough, gets complicated in families sometimes. | 29:20 | |
| It's complicated to be in a family, particularly | 29:29 | |
| if you are in an ordinary family. | 29:31 | |
| Our story is set during the time | 29:36 | |
| when the judges ruled Israel. | 29:39 | |
| A time when according to the last verse | 29:42 | |
| of the Book of Judges, there was chaos | 29:45 | |
| in the land and everybody did | 29:48 | |
| what was right in his own eyes. | 29:51 | |
| There was violence in the streets | 29:55 | |
| and political intrigue and corruption | 29:57 | |
| in places high and low. | 30:00 | |
| In short, it was a tough time to have a marriage, | 30:04 | |
| a tough time to be in a family, | 30:07 | |
| and as if this moral chaos were not enough, | 30:10 | |
| there is economic disaster now as well. | 30:13 | |
| The first verse of the Book of Ruth: | 30:18 | |
| "There was a famine in the land." A famine. | 30:20 | |
| And we see pictures of little children | 30:24 | |
| with bloated bellies | 30:26 | |
| and hungry beggars wandering the streets. | 30:27 | |
| It was an ugly time. | 30:30 | |
| And Naomi and her husband | 30:34 | |
| leave their home in Bethlehem | 30:37 | |
| and they travel out to the wilds of Moab. | 30:40 | |
| They hear that things are better in Moab. | 30:45 | |
| Have any of you ever been to Moab? | 30:51 | |
| It's a rough, out-of-the-way sort of place. | 30:54 | |
| You don't want to go to Moab unless | 30:57 | |
| you're miserable wherever you presently are. | 30:59 | |
| Back in Genesis after Abraham and Lot parted, | 31:03 | |
| we a re told that Lot went out into the wilderness | 31:07 | |
| and he lived in a cave in the wilderness | 31:10 | |
| with his two daughters. | 31:12 | |
| And one day his daughters looked at their father | 31:14 | |
| and said, he's getting old and we're getting old, | 31:17 | |
| and we've got no prospect for husbands. | 31:20 | |
| And so they get their father drunk-- | 31:23 | |
| it's in the book of Genesis-- | 31:25 | |
| and they go in to their father. | 31:27 | |
| Nine months later they give birth to two sons | 31:30 | |
| and one of them is named Moab | 31:35 | |
| which Genesis says became the father of the Moabites. | 31:39 | |
| Parents, I know that you think this is | 31:44 | |
| an inappropriate bible story for your children | 31:46 | |
| but I'm trying to explain why a life | 31:50 | |
| out in Moab was no picnic! | 31:52 | |
| You had to really be desperate to improve | 31:54 | |
| your lot by moving to Moab. | 31:56 | |
| And Naomi and her husband are desperate; | 32:00 | |
| they are hungry. And so they take their two sons | 32:02 | |
| and they move out to Moab. | 32:05 | |
| And wouldn't you know it, | 32:09 | |
| no sooner have they unpacked | 32:10 | |
| then their boys are dating Moabite girls. | 32:12 | |
| It's complicated because now Naomi is a single parent-- | 32:17 | |
| her husband died right after she got to Moab. | 32:21 | |
| And how she wishes that her husband were there | 32:26 | |
| to help her during this time of difficulty, | 32:29 | |
| to help her deal with the problem of | 32:32 | |
| her boys' infatuation with these Moabite girls. | 32:34 | |
| Why is it, she wonders, do foreign women | 32:37 | |
| always look more attractive? | 32:40 | |
| But Naomi is a single parent, | 32:42 | |
| and like a lot of single parents, | 32:44 | |
| she just gets by the best that she can. | 32:46 | |
| Naomi says to her oldest son Mahlon, | 32:50 | |
| "Mahlon, it's not that | 32:54 | |
| "what's-her-name is a bad girl--" | 32:59 | |
| "Her name is Ruth, mother." | 33:03 | |
| "Alright, it's not that Ruth is a bad girl, | 33:06 | |
| "it's just that she has not had | 33:10 | |
| "the advantages that our family has had. | 33:12 | |
| "She has a different value system than we do. | 33:15 | |
| "She's just a little..." | 33:18 | |
| "She's just a little Moabite, is that | 33:20 | |
| "what you're trying to say, mother?" | 33:23 | |
| Well, Naomi gets about as far with this argument | 33:25 | |
| as some of you have with your sons and daughters | 33:28 | |
| in similar situations. | 33:30 | |
| Besides, where's Mahlon gonna find a | 33:33 | |
| nice, respectable, middle-class churchgoing girl | 33:35 | |
| out here in Moab? | 33:39 | |
| And just a few months later, | 33:41 | |
| Naomi has two Moabite daughters-in-law on her hands | 33:43 | |
| and she tries to make the best of it. | 33:49 | |
| "Dear," she says to Ruth one day. | 33:54 | |
| "You're so pretty, you're so naturally pretty. | 33:57 | |
| "Don't you think you could get along | 33:59 | |
| "with just a tad less eyeliner?" | 34:01 | |
| (laughter) | 34:03 | |
| And to her other daughter-in-law she says, | 34:06 | |
| "You know, a low cut gold lamé blouse is okay, | 34:10 | |
| "but do you think for church?" | 34:14 | |
| It's tough being a mother-in-law. | 34:19 | |
| But it's about to get tougher, | 34:22 | |
| because both of Naomi's sons die | 34:25 | |
| and Naomi is left alone with two daughters-in-law | 34:29 | |
| that she hardly knows, much less likes. | 34:32 | |
| And so, after the death of her two sons | 34:36 | |
| Naomi says, "Girls, | 34:39 | |
| "I'm going back home to Bethlehem. | 34:43 | |
| "I'm going back home to my own people. | 34:46 | |
| "I'm a single woman with no marketable skills, | 34:50 | |
| "no prospect for a marriage, I mean no future. | 34:54 | |
| "I can't help you. | 34:59 | |
| "You are young, you are attractive-- | 35:02 | |
| "in a Moabite sort of way." | 35:05 | |
| (laughter) | 35:07 | |
| "Go help yourselves. | 35:09 | |
| "You don't need a dependent old lady | 35:12 | |
| "like me around. | 35:14 | |
| "You go on back and you live with your people | 35:17 | |
| "right here in Moab." | 35:19 | |
| And what her daughters-in-law say surprises Naomi. | 35:22 | |
| "You are our people. | 35:28 | |
| "We will go with you." | 35:32 | |
| Well Naomi tries to talk some sense into them. | 35:35 | |
| "Look, you are women, you are unmarried women. | 35:37 | |
| "We live in a patriarchal society | 35:41 | |
| "(even though at 1000 B.C. we don't know it's patriarchal | 35:43 | |
| "yet until the feminists told us later)." (laughter) | 35:46 | |
| "You are poor, you are unmarried, | 35:49 | |
| "you are vulnerable women, you are Moabites. | 35:52 | |
| "Why don't you stay here where there's some hope for you?" | 35:55 | |
| And Orpah decides to leave, but | 36:00 | |
| Ruth clung to Naomi. | 36:04 | |
| She clung to Naomi. | 36:08 | |
| It's the same Old Testament word | 36:09 | |
| that's used in Genesis to talk about marriage: | 36:11 | |
| "For this reason a man shall leave | 36:14 | |
| "his mother and his father | 36:17 | |
| "and he shall cling to his wife. | 36:19 | |
| "They shall become one flesh." | 36:22 | |
| Ruth clung to Naomi, just like marriage. | 36:25 | |
| She refused to leave this old woman. | 36:30 | |
| Naomi said, "Even if I should get a husband | 36:35 | |
| "up in Bethlehem, | 36:40 | |
| "I am long past the age of having children. | 36:41 | |
| "I can have no more sons for you, my dear." | 36:45 | |
| But Ruth countered Naomi's pleadings | 36:50 | |
| with pleadings of her own, | 36:53 | |
| with one of the most beloved speeches | 36:57 | |
| in the entire Bible. | 36:59 | |
| "Entreat me not to leave you | 37:02 | |
| "or to return from following you | 37:05 | |
| "for where you go, I will go. | 37:08 | |
| "Your people shall be my people | 37:13 | |
| "and your God shall be my God. | 37:15 | |
| "And where you die I will die | 37:20 | |
| "and there I'll be buried." | 37:24 | |
| Ruth, a Moabite, a single woman | 37:28 | |
| and it appears if Ruth is just | 37:34 | |
| throwing her life away for no one more important | 37:36 | |
| than her mother-in-law. | 37:41 | |
| Earlier in Genesis, when Abraham and Sarah | 37:46 | |
| were told to pack up their things and move out | 37:48 | |
| to a strange new land, they knew not where, | 37:50 | |
| God promised them, "I will bless you | 37:53 | |
| "I will be with you, I'll make something out of you." | 37:55 | |
| But Ruth ventures forth with no promises. | 38:00 | |
| She links her life to Naomi with absolutely nothing | 38:07 | |
| any more substantial than an affection | 38:10 | |
| that a young woman has for an older one. | 38:13 | |
| It's a story, therefore, about these strange yokings. | 38:17 | |
| These unusual linkages and clingings that occur | 38:23 | |
| in an ordinary family. | 38:29 | |
| Yokings and linkages made all the more strange, I think, | 38:34 | |
| because you and I live in a culture | 38:40 | |
| that does not understand such claiming | 38:42 | |
| and clinging of one person to another. | 38:45 | |
| We've got trouble understanding this story | 38:50 | |
| not because it's 3000 years old, | 38:52 | |
| but because we've constructed a society | 38:56 | |
| which acts as if it were possible | 38:59 | |
| to be a full human being with no attachments | 39:01 | |
| and no claims and no clinging between people. | 39:05 | |
| For us the individual, | 39:09 | |
| the sovereign individual, is everything. | 39:11 | |
| Liberated, self-sufficient, autonomous, standing alone. | 39:14 | |
| We've devised an educational system | 39:20 | |
| to match our ideology of the individual. | 39:22 | |
| Here, like most places, we educate through detachment. | 39:26 | |
| We detach you from your family, | 39:31 | |
| we move you out of home, | 39:33 | |
| we put you into the hands of strangers, | 39:35 | |
| we abandon you to your peer group in Pegram, | 39:37 | |
| and after we have completely detached you | 39:39 | |
| from mama and daddy and tradition and community | 39:42 | |
| we give you a degree | 39:44 | |
| and we thereby imply that the only way | 39:46 | |
| to get wisdom in this world | 39:49 | |
| is by making everybody a stranger | 39:51 | |
| to everybody else. | 39:53 | |
| And we're genuinely shocked when someone | 39:56 | |
| comes along, younger or older, | 39:59 | |
| and makes a claim on our lives. | 40:01 | |
| Like parents who've got opinions | 40:05 | |
| about their children's behavior | 40:07 | |
| or children who turn and hold us parents to account. | 40:10 | |
| We're shocked, cause we've defined freedom | 40:16 | |
| as the fewest possible number of attachments. | 40:21 | |
| Of course, such a definition of freedom | 40:26 | |
| makes things like marriage and family | 40:29 | |
| and childbearing virtually incomprehensible. | 40:31 | |
| After all, why would anybody wanna limit | 40:36 | |
| his or her options | 40:38 | |
| by becoming unnecessarily tied down | 40:42 | |
| to the messy complications of another human being? | 40:46 | |
| And the strange thing is that | 40:53 | |
| many of us are feeling anything but free. | 40:54 | |
| Parents, in a well intentioned effort | 40:59 | |
| to give our children freedom, | 41:02 | |
| abandon our children | 41:06 | |
| to the most tyrannical master of all: | 41:09 | |
| their peers. | 41:13 | |
| Our old people perish in isolation | 41:16 | |
| and selfishness, stored in vast communes | 41:19 | |
| of the retired who have no responsibilities | 41:22 | |
| and no claim upon themselves by anyone | 41:25 | |
| other than themselves. | 41:29 | |
| Irresponsibility is ugly if it occurs | 41:32 | |
| in somebody who's seventeen or somebody who's seventy. | 41:36 | |
| Marriage becomes a contract between | 41:40 | |
| two friendly strangers who band together | 41:43 | |
| to meet individual needs. | 41:46 | |
| And so the story of Ruth and Naomi, | 41:50 | |
| these two strangers bound together | 41:52 | |
| in a hostile world, strikes us as strange. | 41:56 | |
| The story asserts that parents and family | 42:03 | |
| and children and in-laws are an invitation | 42:07 | |
| to expose ourselves to strangers, | 42:12 | |
| to become vulnerable to another human being, | 42:17 | |
| to link our future to some project | 42:21 | |
| greater than ourselves. | 42:24 | |
| To be in any family, any marriage, | 42:27 | |
| is always to venture forth like Ruth and Naomi | 42:30 | |
| into some uncharted territory | 42:33 | |
| where you've got no guarantees for the future, | 42:36 | |
| only the confidence that the future-- | 42:42 | |
| even the worst of futures--is a lot more bearable | 42:46 | |
| when you bear it with someone else. | 42:50 | |
| Well, I don't have time to go into the rest of the story, | 42:55 | |
| but I can tell you that right after Ruth and Naomi | 42:58 | |
| got up to Bethlehem, Naomi got busy | 43:02 | |
| and she found Ruth a husband. | 43:05 | |
| Well, he wasn't much of a husband, | 43:08 | |
| this Boaz, but he did the job. | 43:10 | |
| "He's too old for me," says Ruth. | 43:12 | |
| "Ha, old men are good in marriage," says Naomi. | 43:15 | |
| "Besides, he's the only man you've got." | 43:19 | |
| This Naomi had been round the block a few times. | 43:24 | |
| "You get over to that threshing floor." | 43:28 | |
| And Ruth bore a son eventually, | 43:31 | |
| up in Bethlehem. | 43:34 | |
| Ruth, a woman, a single woman | 43:37 | |
| vulnerable at the dead end of her life | 43:40 | |
| with no future, no hope, | 43:43 | |
| she had a child up in Bethlehem. | 43:45 | |
| And some people say that this story is a parable | 43:51 | |
| because the child of Ruth was named Obed, | 43:56 | |
| and Obed became the father of Jesse, | 44:00 | |
| and Jesse became the father of David, | 44:03 | |
| and eventually David became the father of Joseph, | 44:07 | |
| Joseph the carpenter. | 44:11 | |
| And he and Mary had a son named Joshua-- | 44:13 | |
| "God saves"--Jesus, up at Bethlehem. | 44:17 | |
| You see, Ruth, a foreign Moabite woman, | 44:25 | |
| through the strange twistings and turnings | 44:31 | |
| of providence, becomes the means of salvation | 44:34 | |
| for Israel, for us. | 44:37 | |
| Bethlehem baby's reminds all of us | 44:42 | |
| that this is a family story. | 44:44 | |
| But it's not just an isolated story | 44:46 | |
| about an ordinary family like yours and mine. | 44:49 | |
| It's a story about the ordinary whole human family, | 44:52 | |
| about the ways that God can use our little ordinary families | 44:58 | |
| from New Jersey in spectacularly extraordinary ways. | 45:01 | |
| 'Cause God always saves through ordinary people | 45:08 | |
| like Ruth and Naomi and Joseph and Mary | 45:11 | |
| who do ordinary duties like getting married, | 45:17 | |
| and having babies, and putting up with daughters-in-law, | 45:20 | |
| in ordinary families like yours and like mine | 45:24 | |
| if we'd just stick together, | 45:29 | |
| if we would just cling to one another | 45:31 | |
| through thick and thin and trust God | 45:36 | |
| to use our little ordinary fidelity to one another | 45:39 | |
| extraordinarily the world to bless. | 45:46 | |
| A quote from George Eliot's Middlemarch: | 45:53 | |
| "The good of the world is dependent on | 45:58 | |
| "quite unhistoric acts, | 46:03 | |
| "and that things are not so ill | 46:06 | |
| "between you and me as they might have been | 46:08 | |
| "is half owing to the number who lived | 46:14 | |
| "faithfully a hidden life | 46:17 | |
| "and now rest in unvisited tombs." | 46:22 | |
| Amen. | 46:28 | |
| (organ music) | 46:32 | |
| (congregation singing) | 47:14 | |
| - | Oh eternal God who has called us | 49:50 |
| to live together in unity | 49:53 | |
| in the splendor of this holy time and place | 49:56 | |
| open our eyes to behold your gracious | 50:00 | |
| and loving hand in all your work. | 50:02 | |
| Empower us to rejoice in each moment of our lives | 50:05 | |
| that in celebrating your goodness | 50:10 | |
| we may learn to serve you with gladness. | 50:12 | |
| Lord in your mercy, hear our prayer. | 50:16 | |
| Oh God of Ruth and Naomi | 50:20 | |
| you show us the way to live faithful lives | 50:23 | |
| of commitment and perseverance. | 50:26 | |
| Strengthen us in our times of weakness | 50:28 | |
| that we may never waver in our devotion | 50:31 | |
| to those who are closest to our hearts | 50:34 | |
| that we may remain open to your surprising | 50:36 | |
| interventions in our lives. | 50:39 | |
| Especially we pray for all families in crisis | 50:42 | |
| that you would restore broken relationships | 50:46 | |
| and strengthen them for the future | 50:49 | |
| through your gifts of forgiveness and reconciliation. | 50:51 | |
| Lord in your mercy hear our prayer. | 50:55 | |
| Oh creating God, in giving us dominion | 51:00 | |
| over things on earth you made us fellow creators | 51:03 | |
| in your creation. | 51:07 | |
| Give us wisdom and reverence | 51:09 | |
| so to use the resources of nature | 51:10 | |
| that no one may suffer from our abuse of them | 51:13 | |
| and that generations yet to come | 51:16 | |
| may continue to praise you for your bounty. | 51:18 | |
| Lord in your mercy, hear our prayer. | 51:21 | |
| Oh redeeming God, you showed us | 51:26 | |
| the way of peace as you gave yourself for others. | 51:28 | |
| We pray that your holy and life-giving spirit | 51:32 | |
| may so move every human heart in every land | 51:35 | |
| that barriers which divide us may fall | 51:39 | |
| suspicions vanish and hatred cease | 51:42 | |
| and that our divisions being healed | 51:46 | |
| all may dwell in peace. | 51:48 | |
| Lord in your mercy, here our prayer. | 51:51 | |
| Oh sustaining God, in revealing yourself to us | 51:55 | |
| as a servant you taught us that the first | 51:59 | |
| shall be last and the last, first. | 52:01 | |
| We remember before you all poor and neglected persons | 52:04 | |
| whom we too quickly and easily dismiss. | 52:08 | |
| The homeless and the destitute, the sick and the dying | 52:11 | |
| and all who have none to care for them. | 52:15 | |
| Help us to heal those who are broken | 52:19 | |
| in body or spirit and to lighten their burdens | 52:21 | |
| by acts of mercy. | 52:24 | |
| Lord in your mercy, hear our prayer. | 52:26 | |
| Oh God of love, as we face the daily doubts | 52:30 | |
| and uncertainties in our lives | 52:34 | |
| grant us the grace to know | 52:36 | |
| what you would have us to do. | 52:38 | |
| May your spirit of wisdom save us | 52:40 | |
| from foolhardy choices and direct us | 52:42 | |
| in the way of truth. | 52:44 | |
| Lord in your mercy, hear our prayer. | 52:47 | |
| These things we pray in the name of Jesus Christ | 52:51 | |
| our redeemer and our Lord, amen. | 52:53 | |
| As a people called to live in committed relationship | 52:59 | |
| to God and to one another, let us offer | 53:02 | |
| our gifts and ourselves unto God. | 53:05 | |
| (orchestral music) | 53:32 | |
| (choir singing) | 53:43 | |
| (organ music) | 1:01:48 | |
| (congregation singing) | 1:02:18 | |
| - | Our kind and gracious God | 1:03:14 |
| that we are alive, that the seasons unfold | 1:03:16 | |
| in their glorious array | 1:03:20 | |
| that time spent with family and friends | 1:03:22 | |
| renews and refreshes us | 1:03:24 | |
| your name be praised. | 1:03:26 | |
| We thank you for the life of faith | 1:03:29 | |
| which teaches us the value of commitment | 1:03:31 | |
| and for those who have stood by us | 1:03:33 | |
| in the best and the worst of times. | 1:03:35 | |
| Especially we thank you for your faithfulness | 1:03:38 | |
| to us, your people | 1:03:41 | |
| and to the bounty of your love | 1:03:42 | |
| and so with all your people in every corner | 1:03:45 | |
| of creation we count it joy to praise your name. | 1:03:47 | |
| This we pray, the name of the one | 1:03:50 | |
| who taught us to pray with confidence. | 1:03:52 | |
| Our father, who art in Heaven. | 1:03:55 | |
| Hallowed be thy name. | 1:03:57 | |
| Thy kingdom come, thy will be done | 1:03:59 | |
| on earth as it is in Heaven. | 1:04:02 | |
| Give us this day our daily bread | 1:04:04 | |
| and forgive us our trespasses | 1:04:07 | |
| as we forgive those who trespass against us | 1:04:08 | |
| and lead us not into temptation | 1:04:12 | |
| but deliver us from evil for thine is the kingdom | 1:04:14 | |
| the power and the glory forever. | 1:04:18 | |
| Amen. | 1:04:21 | |
| And now may the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ | 1:04:24 | |
| the love of God and the communion of the Holy Spirit | 1:04:27 | |
| be with you all now and forever more, amen. | 1:04:30 | |
| (choir singing) | 1:04:36 | |
| (organ music) | 1:06:40 | |
| (congregation singing) | 1:07:24 | |
| ♪ Go in peace and serve the Lord ♪ | 1:11:15 | |
| ♪ In the name of Christ ♪ | 1:11:20 | |
| ♪ Amen ♪ | 1:11:25 | |
| (organ music) | 1:11:32 |
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