William H. Willimon - "The Family" (August 30, 1992)
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(single note of classical music) | 0:03 | |
(paper rustling) | 0:05 | |
Preacher | Because we're at the beginning, | 0:16 |
let us begin at the beginning. | 0:18 | |
In the Book of Genesis, in the Bible, | 0:23 | |
Genesis's name means, in the beginning. | 0:26 | |
And because we've been asked by Marilyn Quayle | 0:31 | |
to talk about family values, | 0:33 | |
(students laugh) | 0:35 | |
let us start with a family story. | 0:37 | |
It's a family story that we have | 0:41 | |
as our scripture this morning. | 0:44 | |
And that's important because a lot of you | 0:48 | |
have had to leave your families | 0:50 | |
in order to come here to Duke. | 0:52 | |
And that pains some of you. | 0:55 | |
It delights others. | 0:56 | |
(students laughing) | 0:58 | |
But we're going to talk about family. | 0:59 | |
But it's not just any family | 1:03 | |
because here is a family whose head | 1:05 | |
is named Jacob or Israel. | 1:07 | |
And so, here is a family story | 1:09 | |
about our family in the faith. | 1:11 | |
It's about Israel. | 1:15 | |
It's about the family about | 1:17 | |
how we got here in the beginning. | 1:18 | |
And because it's a true story, | 1:24 | |
it's also going to be a story about your family, | 1:27 | |
a story of promise, of dreams, | 1:32 | |
of tension and conflict within the family. | 1:35 | |
Most of what we know of love we learn in the family. | 1:40 | |
And most of the really long-term damage | 1:45 | |
done to us is done in the family. | 1:47 | |
And it's a story that's honest enough to talk about that. | 1:51 | |
Actually, it would not have been that eventful a story. | 1:58 | |
Just a story about another ordinary family | 2:02 | |
headed by somebody named Jacob, | 2:06 | |
Jacob and his 12 sons, | 2:10 | |
had it not been for the appearance | 2:12 | |
in this story of somebody named Joseph. | 2:14 | |
Joseph, whose name means add, added on. | 2:19 | |
Joseph was added on to this family | 2:25 | |
late in his father's life. | 2:27 | |
And this little addition changes everything. | 2:32 | |
How many of you know from firsthand experience | 2:34 | |
what it's like to have, mamma and daddy, | 2:36 | |
the world kind of to yourself | 2:41 | |
and then have somebody added on? | 2:42 | |
After your mother's divorce, | 2:46 | |
she comes home and says that she's gonna get married again. | 2:48 | |
Then you got somebody, the stepfather, added on. | 2:52 | |
Or your parents come home one day | 2:56 | |
when you're 12 and say, | 2:57 | |
"Guess what? | 2:58 | |
"You're going to have a new little sister or brother." | 2:59 | |
Be tough to get somebody added on. | 3:05 | |
It invariably causes some conflict, some tension. | 3:09 | |
Now, in this family, as Wade Huey once said | 3:15 | |
from this pulpit on this text, | 3:19 | |
in this family Jacob always | 3:20 | |
brought his son's clothes at Kmart. | 3:22 | |
And that's smart if you've got 12 sons | 3:27 | |
to clothe for school and everything. | 3:29 | |
But when it came time to buy clothes | 3:33 | |
for little Joseph, little added on, | 3:35 | |
he went straight to Neiman Marcus, | 3:40 | |
to the designer shop at Neiman Marcus | 3:42 | |
'cause nothing was too good for little Joseph. | 3:46 | |
In fact, as the scripture says just right out, | 3:49 | |
"Jacob loved Joseph more than all of his other children." | 3:53 | |
I mean, what kind of family is this, | 3:57 | |
with this sort of parental favoritism? | 3:59 | |
But, look, you have a child when you're about 80 years old, | 4:03 | |
you're gonna be proud of him. | 4:08 | |
(students laughing) | 4:10 | |
And so, Jacob goes down to the designer shop | 4:11 | |
and he buys for little Joseph this coat | 4:17 | |
of many colors, in the King James version. | 4:22 | |
But I'm sorry to tell you, freshman start this out already, | 4:25 | |
but a lot that they told you | 4:28 | |
in Sunday school wasn't exactly right. | 4:29 | |
No, the Hebrew word is not coat of many colors. | 4:31 | |
It was a coat with long sleeves. | 4:34 | |
It was along-sleeve coat that he bought little Joseph. | 4:39 | |
It was a garment fit for a prince. | 4:43 | |
Because it's not only a great present from a doting father, | 4:46 | |
this father who loves little Joseph | 4:50 | |
more than he loves his other boys, | 4:52 | |
but that long-sleeve robe is also a sign for all to see | 4:54 | |
that little Joseph is somehow better than everybody else. | 5:00 | |
It set him apart from his brothers. | 5:09 | |
Every time he strutted about in that long-sleeve robe | 5:12 | |
it was a visible reminder to those brothers | 5:18 | |
that somehow little Joseph was better than they. | 5:22 | |
'Cause you see, those who worked out in the fields | 5:27 | |
couldn't wear long-sleeve robes. | 5:31 | |
No, they had to roll up their sleeves and go to work. | 5:34 | |
You had to be royalty to wear a robe with long sleeves. | 5:38 | |
And little Joseph wore his long-sleeve robe | 5:47 | |
to do the only work he is reported to have done, | 5:51 | |
and that is occasionally to be sent by his daddy | 5:56 | |
out to the fields to spy on his older brothers | 5:59 | |
to make sure they were working and then to run, | 6:02 | |
long-sleeves flapping in the wind, | 6:06 | |
fast as he could back to daddy to tell him, | 6:09 | |
to tattle tale on his brothers. | 6:11 | |
Can you blame the older brothers for hating | 6:15 | |
little Joseph and that long-sleeve robe? | 6:19 | |
Can you imagine what it's like to be out there | 6:24 | |
sweating in the fields and see this little long-sleeve | 6:26 | |
added on out there, come out there? | 6:32 | |
A couple of summers ago, I stood before the doors | 6:38 | |
of the Ufizzi Gallery in Florence | 6:41 | |
and I watched American college students turn sadly away | 6:45 | |
because they said they couldn't afford the entrance fee. | 6:52 | |
And they stood by and they watched | 6:58 | |
as Japanese and Spanish and Korean, | 7:00 | |
other students marched into the gallery. | 7:04 | |
It makes you feel kinda funny. | 7:09 | |
And I noticed that it's been many years | 7:13 | |
since expensive restaurants in Munich | 7:15 | |
put signs on the window saying, "We speak English." | 7:18 | |
Now, those expensive restaurants have waiters | 7:23 | |
that are learning languages other than English. | 7:27 | |
And, is there nobody here that felt | 7:32 | |
even a tinge of resentment | 7:35 | |
during the Gulf War as we watched | 7:40 | |
our sons and daughters go over there | 7:42 | |
to fight for the Amir of Kuwait, | 7:45 | |
while other more prosperous nations sent checks | 7:48 | |
rather than their own children? | 7:53 | |
It's kinda odd to find ourselves here, | 7:58 | |
at the end of the 20th century, | 8:02 | |
to see little brother Joseph in his | 8:05 | |
Mercedes or Lexus, long sleeves flapping in the wind. | 8:10 | |
And we hate him for it, those long-sleeve robe. | 8:17 | |
That long-sleeve robe caught up within itself | 8:24 | |
all of the resentment that they felt towards Joseph, | 8:28 | |
all of the pathology of a family that's not working, | 8:35 | |
and a father who doesn't know how to love | 8:40 | |
little brother Joseph without damaging the older brothers, | 8:43 | |
and the natural resentment of siblings for this younger, | 8:48 | |
favored little added on and that long-sleeved robe. | 8:52 | |
Don't you just hate people in long-sleeve robes | 9:00 | |
that stand up and kind of lord over everybody else? | 9:03 | |
(students laughing) | 9:06 | |
And would you look at mine. | 9:14 | |
I've got an even prettier one in my closet | 9:15 | |
and if you're lucky enough to graduate in a few years, | 9:17 | |
I'll wear that long-sleeve robe for you at graduation, | 9:20 | |
down in the football stadium. | 9:24 | |
It's a lovely blue robe. | 9:25 | |
It's got velvet and satin. | 9:28 | |
I wear it with some degree of humility, | 9:35 | |
but at the front of the procession. | 9:39 | |
(students laughing) | 9:42 | |
But unlike Joseph, you see, unlike Joseph, | 9:46 | |
my robe is not a sign | 9:52 | |
of some sort of patriarchal favoritism. | 9:53 | |
No, I got my robe the old fashioned way. | 9:56 | |
I earned my robe. | 9:59 | |
Daddy did not give me that robe. | 10:01 | |
So, if I am among the most favorite of the world, | 10:04 | |
if my children go to bed with enough to eat at night, | 10:07 | |
if we have a roof over our head, | 10:09 | |
a place to sleep, | 10:11 | |
if I don't have to greet another day | 10:14 | |
by grubbing around the town garbage dump for food, | 10:16 | |
it's because unlike Joseph, you see, I earned it. | 10:22 | |
That makes a big difference. | 10:27 | |
And on your day of Duke commencement, | 10:31 | |
you will be able to stand up in your long-sleeve robe | 10:33 | |
and you will be able to say, | 10:37 | |
"I got my robe the old fashioned way. | 10:40 | |
"I earned this robe. | 10:43 | |
"Daddy did not give this robe to me. | 10:44 | |
"I earned it. | 10:46 | |
"I am not saved by grace." | 10:48 | |
But there may be some older brother | 10:55 | |
standing around that day, | 10:57 | |
growling under his breath. | 11:01 | |
You know, the older brother that you left behind | 11:04 | |
in your hometown to work in the garage | 11:06 | |
while you went on to do Duke. | 11:08 | |
That older brother may say, "Wait a minute. | 11:12 | |
"Daddy gave you that robe." | 11:16 | |
All those teachers that struggled. | 11:22 | |
You remember that teacher that stayed after class | 11:26 | |
with you when everybody had gone, | 11:28 | |
to help you work that thing through? | 11:30 | |
You remember that coach that gave you that second chance | 11:34 | |
even when you blew your first? | 11:37 | |
You think of those parents | 11:42 | |
that started saving and planning for you to go to college | 11:44 | |
while you were still in diapers. | 11:48 | |
No, in our better moments, we realize it's a lie. | 11:52 | |
We didn't earn this robe. | 11:55 | |
It was a gift, it was grace. | 11:59 | |
Daddy gave us that robe. | 12:01 | |
We got it the old fashioned way. | 12:06 | |
But, I hate to tell you that Joseph | 12:11 | |
did not wear his robe too well in the family. | 12:13 | |
One day, Joseph came down for breakfast, | 12:17 | |
sleeping in late as usual. | 12:21 | |
His brothers were already there, | 12:23 | |
getting ready for a day's work, | 12:25 | |
bent down, slurping over their Corn Flakes. | 12:26 | |
And little brother Joseph said, | 12:30 | |
"I had the most interesting dream last night. | 12:33 | |
"Would anybody here like to hear about my dream?" | 12:35 | |
Silence from the slurping brothers. | 12:39 | |
"Yes, it was an awfully interesting dream. | 12:42 | |
"I dreamed that we were out in the fields | 12:44 | |
"gathering wheat and we had our sheaths. | 12:46 | |
"And your sheaths of wheat bowed down to mine." | 12:48 | |
"Really?" said the brothers. | 12:54 | |
"Yes, and then I had this dream. | 12:57 | |
"I dreamed that there was the moon and the sun | 12:58 | |
"and the stars and they were all bowing down to me." | 13:00 | |
"Really?" said the brothers. | 13:08 | |
And the story says if those brothers | 13:15 | |
resented little Joseph because of that robe, | 13:18 | |
they really hated him for his dreams. | 13:21 | |
It was too much even for old Israel. | 13:26 | |
"Really Joseph? | 13:28 | |
"You really do go on sometimes, don't you? | 13:29 | |
"Am I and your mother suppose to bow down to you? | 13:33 | |
"If you're gonna strut your long-sleeve robe | 13:40 | |
"in front of people, it's important to try to look humble | 13:43 | |
"while you're doing it." | 13:46 | |
Is it any wonder that a short time after this episode | 13:49 | |
at breakfast when the older brothers were out | 13:52 | |
sweating in the fields and they looked up | 13:55 | |
and here came little brother Joseph with his robe, | 13:57 | |
they looked up and they said, "Now, comes our chance"? | 14:00 | |
"Now comes our chance to do away | 14:04 | |
"with this dreamer and his dreams." | 14:06 | |
It is the same biblical verse that is inscribed | 14:13 | |
on the tomb of Martin Luther King in Atlanta. | 14:15 | |
"Away with this dreamer and his insolent dreams." | 14:21 | |
But then they thought better of it. | 14:28 | |
And so, after throwing him in a pit when there were | 14:30 | |
these Ishmaelite traders that came through, | 14:32 | |
they pulled him out and they sold him into slavery in Egypt. | 14:34 | |
And as they drove away on their camels, they said, | 14:38 | |
"Let's see what'll become of little Joseph | 14:41 | |
"when he's a slave in Egypt." | 14:44 | |
And that long-sleeve robe, | 14:48 | |
they smeared it in goat's blood | 14:51 | |
and they took it back to the daddy. | 14:54 | |
And they laid it before him and they said, | 14:57 | |
"Gosh, Dad, guess what happened at work today?" | 15:00 | |
(students laughing and gasping) | 15:04 | |
And the story ends in pain with old Israel crying out | 15:06 | |
to heaven for his presumed to be dead favorite son Joseph, | 15:11 | |
the lies inflicted by those brothers on their old man. | 15:16 | |
And thus, we end the first chapter of the Joseph story, | 15:21 | |
with the brothers dumbly watching their father grieve | 15:25 | |
and scream to heaven in torment | 15:28 | |
and Joseph on his way to slavery in Egypt. | 15:31 | |
The story invites us to ask, | 15:36 | |
"Well, how is this family going to turn out? | 15:38 | |
"What's going to happen now?" | 15:41 | |
But we don't know. | 15:43 | |
All we've got now is this deceit | 15:44 | |
and resentment and violence and grief. | 15:47 | |
And poor old Jacob crying to heaven | 15:51 | |
for his slaughtered child. | 15:54 | |
And there would be many other instances | 15:58 | |
for Israel to cry to heaven for dead children. | 16:00 | |
In the sermons of anti-Jewish preaching by Christians, | 16:05 | |
in the vindictiveness of Martin Luther | 16:10 | |
in the medieval pogroms in Europe, | 16:12 | |
in the fires of Auschwitz and Bergen-Belsen, | 16:14 | |
Israel would have lots of experience | 16:18 | |
weeping for his children. | 16:21 | |
And it's a story about a dream, | 16:27 | |
about dream of little added on, | 16:29 | |
about something that's added on to the normal humdrum, | 16:33 | |
ordinary course of family's life. | 16:36 | |
Things might have gone quite uneventfully for this family | 16:39 | |
if it hadn't been for little brother | 16:42 | |
and his arrogant, pushy dreams. | 16:43 | |
And it's a story about the resentment felt by those | 16:48 | |
who do not dream, who seethe with envy and resentment, | 16:51 | |
as upstart pushy little brother moves ahead of the line. | 16:56 | |
And it's a story about killers of the dream, | 17:03 | |
about people who refuse to make room for little brother. | 17:08 | |
Well, I told you it was a family story, | 17:14 | |
a story about your family and my family. | 17:17 | |
It's about the human family. | 17:22 | |
Some of you are here this morning | 17:26 | |
because somebody gave you a nice, long-sleeved robe. | 17:28 | |
You're gifted. | 17:34 | |
And some of you are here this morning | 17:38 | |
because you've got a dream. | 17:39 | |
You've had a pushy, upstart dream | 17:40 | |
and that's why you're here. | 17:43 | |
And some of us sit here like the older brothers, | 17:47 | |
as deniers of dreams, | 17:49 | |
maybe even capable of killing little brother | 17:53 | |
for dreams greater than our own. | 17:57 | |
And some of us are here like Joseph, | 18:01 | |
just full of dreams, but now stuck in Egypt, | 18:04 | |
impatient for the next chapter of the story to take place. | 18:08 | |
And we're left at the end of the story wondering, | 18:15 | |
how is all of this gonna work out? | 18:17 | |
Who's gonna work it out? | 18:20 | |
Amid such family violence | 18:23 | |
and family deceit and family grief, | 18:25 | |
who's gonna work it out? | 18:28 | |
We don't think Israel is gonna work it out. | 18:29 | |
We don't think the older brothers are gonna work it out. | 18:32 | |
Even Joseph will not work it out. | 18:34 | |
Who will work it out? | 18:36 | |
There is one who is never mentioned in this story, | 18:41 | |
but who we suspects presence is there, | 18:45 | |
darting behind the trees, waiting in the wings. | 18:49 | |
We pray that He might have something | 18:56 | |
in mind for this family, | 18:58 | |
behind the family's sad life together. | 19:01 | |
And so we end this story, | 19:07 | |
having had a mirror held up to ourselves | 19:10 | |
and then praying that Saint Paul maybe was right | 19:14 | |
when he said, "We believe that despite everything, | 19:19 | |
"God works together for good | 19:25 | |
"with those who are called according to his purposes." | 19:31 | |
Amen. | 19:37 | |
(organ music) | 19:42 |
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